The podcast dropped. "The Pierogi Guy: Jake Kowalski on Polish Food, Loss, and the Kitchen That Heals." Forty-five minutes of my voice talking about Babcia and cooking and grief and Helen's.
I listened to it in the Jeep, in the parking lot of the brewery, at 6 AM before my shift. Hearing my own voice is strange — I sound more Wisconsin than I thought, with a flatness to my vowels that I'd never noticed. But the content is honest. The host let me talk, and I said things I'd never said before: about the night Babcia died, about sitting between Danny's and Babcia's headstones, about the napkin with "Helen's" on my fridge, about the fear that I'll fail.
The response was different from the written pieces — more personal, more intimate. People feel like they know you when they hear your voice. DMs poured in — not just food questions, but people sharing their own losses, their own grief kitchens, their own recipe cards. A man whose wife died of cancer said cooking her recipes was the only thing that helped. A woman whose father had Alzheimer's said she makes his scrambled eggs every morning even though he doesn't remember teaching her. A teenager whose grandmother just died asked what to do with the recipes she left behind.
I replied to every single one. Took me three days. But I replied. Because someone replied to me when I was standing in Babcia's kitchen after she died, staring at recipe cards I couldn't read through tears. Mrs. Wojcik replied. The Polish Center women replied. They said: cook. They said: keep going. Now it's my turn to say it.
The September RecipeSpinoff piece published: "The Kitchen Stays Open." About cooking through crisis. About Babcia during hard times, about the pandemic deliveries, about the kartoflanki from the archives. The recipe is Babcia's rosó┼é — the simplest, most healing soup I know. It got ninety thousand reads.
Three RecipeSpinoff pieces. Three hundred thousand combined reads. Seventy-three thousand Instagram followers. A podcast episode. A column. A dream. A twenty-three-year-old from Bay View who can't believe any of this is happening.
But it is. And I'm not going to waste it.
The ninety thousand reads on that September piece still feel unreal to me — but what I hear over and over in the DMs isn’t about the numbers, it’s about the soup. Babcia’s rosół is the recipe I reach for when the world is too loud, but this vegan cabbage soup is its humbler cousin: the same spirit, the same simplicity, the same idea that a pot of something warm on the stove means you haven’t given up. If you’re someone who wrote to me about loss, about grief kitchens, about not knowing what to cook — start here. This is the one.
Vegan Cabbage Soup
Prep Time: 15 min | Cook Time: 40 min | Total Time: 55 min | Servings: 6
Ingredients
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
- 1 medium yellow onion, diced
- 3 cloves garlic, minced
- 3 medium carrots, sliced into rounds
- 3 stalks celery, chopped
- 1/2 small head green cabbage, roughly chopped (about 4 cups)
- 1 can (14.5 oz) diced tomatoes, with juices
- 6 cups vegetable broth
- 1 teaspoon sweet paprika
- 1/2 teaspoon dried thyme
- 1/2 teaspoon caraway seeds (optional, but very Babcia)
- Salt and black pepper, to taste
- Fresh parsley, chopped, for serving
Instructions
- Build the base. Heat olive oil in a large heavy-bottomed pot over medium heat. Add the onion and cook, stirring occasionally, until softened and translucent, about 5 minutes. Add the garlic and cook 1 minute more until fragrant.
- Add the vegetables. Stir in the carrots and celery. Cook for 3–4 minutes, until they begin to soften slightly. Add the chopped cabbage and stir to combine with the other vegetables.
- Season and simmer. Sprinkle in the paprika, thyme, and caraway seeds if using. Stir well so the spices coat the vegetables. Pour in the diced tomatoes with their juices and the vegetable broth. Stir to combine.
- Cook low and slow. Bring the soup to a boil over high heat, then reduce to a low simmer. Cover partially and cook for 25–30 minutes, until the cabbage is completely tender and the flavors have melded. Taste and adjust salt and pepper as needed.
- Serve. Ladle into bowls and finish with a generous handful of fresh chopped parsley. Serve with rye bread if you have it.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 95 | Protein: 3g | Fat: 3g | Carbs: 16g | Fiber: 4g | Sodium: 620mg
About the cook who shared this
Jake Kowalski
Week 233 of Jake’s 30-year story
· Milwaukee, Wisconsin
Jake is a twenty-nine-year-old brewery worker, newlywed, and proud Polish-American from Milwaukee's Bay View neighborhood. He didn't start cooking until his grandmother Babcia Helen passed away and left behind a stack of grease-stained recipe cards. Now he makes pierogi from scratch, smokes meats on a balcony smoker his landlord pretends not to notice, and writes for guys who want to cook good food but don't know a roux from a rub.