The week between Christmas and New Year's. The liminal space. The held breath before the exhale that will be January. I am in the kitchen every day, preparing the osechi, the kuromame glossy and perfect, the datemaki sliced and stored, the kobumaki (kelp rolls) simmering. The kitchen is a factory, a temple, a grief counselor's office. I work in silence. Miya naps. Brian is at the gym or the taproom or wherever Brian goes when he is not here, which is most of the time now, the absence so familiar it has become its own kind of presence, the way a missing tooth leaves a space your tongue cannot stop finding.
I made gobo maki for the first time — burdock root wrapped in thinly sliced beef, simmered in sweet soy. It is one of Fumiko's osechi components that I had never attempted because it requires dexterity and patience and the specific willingness to wrap beef around a stick of root vegetable and believe that the result will be worth the effort. It was. The gobo was earthy and firm. The beef was sweet and tender. Together they were a lesson in complementary textures, in the way two different things can become one thing when they are held together long enough. I am learning this lesson in the kitchen. I am not learning it in the marriage. Some lessons transfer. Some do not.
I called Ken. He was in Sacramento, alone, in his condo. He said he was fine. I asked what he was eating. He said rice and pickled vegetables. I asked if he had made miso soup. He was quiet for a moment and then said, "I do not know how." The admission was enormous. Ken does not admit to not knowing things. Ken is a man who has been self-sufficient for thirty years, who lives alone, who gardens and cooks and manages his life with the precision of a former food inspector. But miso soup was Fumiko's. Miso soup was his mother's. And he has never learned to make it because she was always there to make it for him, and now she is not, and the not-there means the soup is not-there, and the absence of soup is the absence of the woman who made it.
I talked him through it. Over the phone, step by step, the way Fumiko talked me through it for years. "Soak the kombu overnight. Heat slowly. Add the bonito flakes when the water is hot but not boiling. Strain. Dissolve the miso. Do not boil after the miso is added." I heard him move in his kitchen, heard the water, heard the quiet sound of a seventy-five-year-old man learning to make his mother's soup for the first time, taught by his daughter, who was taught by the woman who is no longer here to teach. The chain. The chain holds. It holds in unexpected directions.
Ken learned to make miso soup that night, and I stayed on the phone until he had tasted it and said, quietly, that it was right. But after I hung up I stood in my own kitchen thinking about soup — about how the act of teaching someone to make a pot of something warm is one of the most direct ways we say I want you to survive without me standing next to you. This rustic potato leek soup is not miso, but it holds the same logic: humble ingredients, a slow hand, and the willingness to trust that simple things, made with care, are enough. It is the soup I make when I need to feel grounded, and it is the soup I would walk anyone through, step by step, over the phone, without hesitation.
Rustic Potato Leek Soup
Prep Time: 15 minutes | Cook Time: 35 minutes | Total Time: 50 minutes | Servings: 6
Ingredients
- 2 tablespoons unsalted butter
- 3 large leeks, white and light green parts only, halved lengthwise and sliced thin
- 3 cloves garlic, minced
- 1 1/2 pounds Yukon Gold potatoes, peeled and cut into 3/4-inch cubes
- 4 cups low-sodium chicken or vegetable broth
- 2 cups water
- 1 teaspoon kosher salt, plus more to taste
- 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
- 1/4 teaspoon dried thyme
- 1 bay leaf
- 1/4 cup sour cream or creme fraiche (optional, for serving)
- 2 tablespoons fresh chives or flat-leaf parsley, chopped (for serving)
Instructions
- Sweat the leeks. Melt the butter in a large heavy-bottomed pot or Dutch oven over medium-low heat. Add the sliced leeks and a pinch of salt. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the leeks are soft and wilted but not browned, about 10 minutes.
- Add garlic and aromatics. Stir in the minced garlic and cook for 1 minute until fragrant. Add the thyme and bay leaf.
- Add potatoes and liquid. Add the cubed potatoes, broth, water, salt, and pepper. Raise the heat to medium-high and bring to a gentle boil.
- Simmer until tender. Reduce the heat to medium-low, cover partially, and simmer for 20 to 25 minutes, until the potatoes are completely tender when pierced with a fork.
- Adjust texture. Remove the bay leaf. For a rustic, chunky soup, use a potato masher to crush some of the potatoes directly in the pot, leaving plenty of pieces intact. For a smoother result, transfer roughly half the soup to a blender, puree until smooth, and stir back in.
- Taste and finish. Taste and adjust salt and pepper as needed. Ladle into bowls and top with a small dollop of sour cream and a scatter of fresh chives or parsley if desired. Serve hot.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 185 | Protein: 5g | Fat: 6g | Carbs: 29g | Fiber: 3g | Sodium: 420mg