Halloween week. Or as Amma calls it, "the holiday where Americans give candy to strangers' children," which she has never fully accepted despite living in America for thirty-one years.
Our apartment complex has a trick-or-treating event for the building's kids. I bought three bags of candy because Raj insisted we participate ("We live in a community, Priya") and I carved a pumpkin for the doorstep because I secretly love carving pumpkins despite it having zero cultural relevance to my upbringing.
Amma called while I was elbow-deep in pumpkin guts. "What are you doing?"
"Carving a pumpkin."
"Why?"
"Because it's Halloween."
"We don't do Halloween."
"Amma, I've been doing Halloween since I was six. You let me go trick-or-treating."
"Your father let you. I was against it."
This is revisionist history. I have photographs of Amma sewing me a princess costume in 1994. She was not against it. But Lakshmi Krishnamurthy has never met a narrative she couldn't reshape to support her current position.
The truth is, growing up Indian in Edison meant navigating the holidays of two cultures with the grace of a diplomat and the stomach of an athlete. October was Navaratri AND Halloween. December was Margazhi (the Tamil month of music and prayer) AND Christmas (the tree Amma eventually conceded). March was Holi AND sometimes Easter. We did all of it, not because my parents were assimilated, but because Arvind and I were American kids who wanted what the American kids had, and Amma and Appa loved us enough to compromise.
The compromise was always food. We could trick-or-treat, but we'd eat dinner first (a proper dinner, not a snack). We could have Christmas, but the feast would be Indian (Amma's holiday biryani, not turkey). We could do Easter egg hunts, but the eggs would be colored with turmeric and beet juice because Amma didn't trust commercial food dye.
I think about this now, as a twenty-eight-year-old married woman buying Halloween candy in a CVS. The negotiation between cultures isn't something you finish. It's something you do every day, in small choices: which holidays you celebrate, which foods you cook, which language you speak at home, which traditions you keep and which you let go.
Tonight I made pumpkin soup. Not Indian pumpkin — just regular American pumpkin soup, pureed with cream and nutmeg and a touch of curry powder that I added because I can't help myself. The curry powder makes it mine. Not American, not Indian. Mine.
Raj said it tasted like Thanksgiving. I said it tasted like compromise. We were both right.
That soup — the one that tasted like both Thanksgiving and compromise — is what I’m sharing this week, because it feels like the most honest thing I’ve cooked in a long time. I didn’t set out to make something meaningful; I just wanted dinner, and the curry powder slipped in the way it always does, quietly insisting on being part of the story. Here’s how I made it.
Curried Pumpkin Soup
Prep Time: 10 min | Cook Time: 30 min | Total Time: 40 min | Servings: 4
Ingredients
- 2 tablespoons unsalted butter
- 1 medium yellow onion, roughly chopped
- 3 garlic cloves, minced
- 1 teaspoon curry powder (Madras-style preferred)
- 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
- 1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
- 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper (optional)
- 1 can (15 oz) pure pumpkin puree
- 3 cups low-sodium vegetable or chicken broth
- 1/2 cup heavy cream, plus more for garnish
- 1 teaspoon kosher salt, plus more to taste
- 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
- 1 teaspoon maple syrup or brown sugar
- Fresh chives or pumpkin seeds, for garnish
Instructions
- Sauté the aromatics. Melt butter in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Add the onion and cook, stirring occasionally, until softened and translucent, about 6–8 minutes. Add garlic and cook 1 minute more until fragrant.
- Bloom the spices. Add curry powder, nutmeg, ginger, and cayenne (if using) directly to the onion mixture. Stir constantly for 30–60 seconds until the spices are fragrant and toasted. This step is the whole point — don’t skip it.
- Build the soup. Stir in the pumpkin puree and broth. Bring to a gentle boil, then reduce heat to low and simmer uncovered for 15 minutes, stirring occasionally.
- Add the cream. Stir in the heavy cream and maple syrup. Season with salt and pepper. Simmer another 5 minutes on low heat.
- Blend until smooth. Use an immersion blender directly in the pot, or transfer in batches to a countertop blender, and puree until completely smooth and velvety.
- Taste and adjust. Taste for salt, sweetness, and spice. The curry should whisper, not shout — but that’s your call.
- Serve. Ladle into bowls and swirl in a little extra cream. Top with pumpkin seeds or chives. Serve immediately with crusty bread or naan, depending on which culture you’re negotiating with tonight.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 210 | Protein: 3g | Fat: 15g | Carbs: 18g | Fiber: 4g | Sodium: 480mg
About the cook who shared this
Priya Krishnamurthy
Week 31 of Priya’s 30-year story
· Edison, New Jersey
Priya is a pharmacist, wife, and mom of two in Edison, New Jersey — the town she grew up in, surrounded by the sights and smells of her mother's South Indian kitchen. These days, she splits her time between the hospital pharmacy, school pickups, and her own kitchen, where she cooks nearly every night. Her style is a blend of the Tamil recipes her mother taught her and the American comfort food her kids actually want to eat. She writes about the beautiful mess of balancing two cultures on one plate — and she wants you to know that ordering pizza is also an act of love.