We put in an offer on the Quincy split-level Monday. They accepted Tuesday morning. I cried in the parking lot of the Dunkin' on Quincy Shore Drive for six minutes, the clean cry of a person who has been holding something carefully and is tired of holding it. Then I drove to work. The inspection was Friday. The inspection found knob-and-tube wiring in the walls that we had not priced into the offer, and evidence of a roof repair that had not been disclosed, and a sill on the back of the house that the inspector said was "actively undergoing biological processes" which is inspector-speak for "rotting." The number to make it right was not a number we had. We withdrew the offer Friday night.
I did not cry the second time. I cooked. That is my version of coping -- I turn all grief, including the small and ridiculous, into a pot of something. Beef stew on Saturday, the slow version, four hours with the Guinness and the carrots and the little onions and the flour dredge. Sean walked into the kitchen at 4 PM and said "oh we are doing it the old way" and I said "yes" and he did not say anything else because Sean knows when to cook beside me and when to leave the kitchen. He left the kitchen. Liam and Nora came in and out looking for crackers. Nora pointed at the pot with a specific expression. I gave her a carrot. She took it, looked at it, and handed it back. A second negotiation. I gave her a cracker. That settled it.
Maureen drove down Tuesday for lunch, the day before the inspection, which in retrospect was a kind of jinx. She came with a bag of groceries because my mother has never arrived anywhere without groceries -- she considers it rude, and also she has never trusted my pantry since she visited my BC dorm in 2010 and found two cans of soup and a bottle of vodka. Her pantry audit takes twenty minutes. She rearranges my spice drawer. She tells me Patrick and Colleen need more help than they are asking for and can I drive over and pretend I was in the neighborhood. I say I will. I do.
Liam has a new game at preschool called "firehouse" that involves him and Marcus-who-runs-fast climbing on the little red bench and pretending to slide down a pole. Miss Alicia reports that the game is popular and non-destructive and she is content to let it continue. I am content. My son is playing a game my father and brother have played for their entire adult lives. Continuities carry forward in ways you cannot plan.
The November light pulled back further this week. By 4:15 the windows are dark. Sean set up the living room lamps differently -- a new lamp on the side table, a warmer bulb -- and the room felt better. He notices my light thing. He never mentions it. He just fixes it.
The house will be someone's. It will not be ours. Next one. Next one. Next one.
The carrots were always going to be the quietest part of that Saturday — they went into the stew without ceremony, softened into something almost invisible, and yet Nora still found one worth negotiating over. I’ve been thinking about that since. So this week, I gave the carrot its own moment: roasted until caramelized at the edges, seasoned with cumin and a little garlic, the kind of side dish that asks nothing of you and gives back more than it should. If you’ve got a pot of something slow on the stove and a child who may or may not accept your offering, these belong on the table too.
Cumin Roasted Carrots
Prep Time: 10 min | Cook Time: 28 min | Total Time: 38 min | Servings: 4
Ingredients
- 1 1/2 lbs carrots, peeled and cut into 3-inch sticks (or thick coins)
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 1 1/4 teaspoons ground cumin
- 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
- 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
- 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
- 1/4 teaspoon smoked paprika
- 1 tablespoon fresh flat-leaf parsley, roughly chopped (for serving)
- Optional: a squeeze of lemon at the finish
Instructions
- Preheat. Set your oven to 425°F and line a large rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper.
- Season the carrots. In a large bowl, toss the peeled carrot sticks with olive oil, cumin, garlic powder, smoked paprika, salt, and pepper until every piece is evenly coated.
- Arrange in a single layer. Spread the carrots out on the prepared baking sheet with space between them — crowding will steam them rather than roast them, and you want those caramelized edges.
- Roast. Roast for 25–30 minutes, turning once halfway through, until the carrots are tender at the center and golden-brown at the edges.
- Finish and serve. Transfer to a serving plate, scatter the parsley over the top, and add a small squeeze of lemon if you’d like a little brightness. Serve warm alongside stew, braised meat, or honestly anything.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 110 | Protein: 1g | Fat: 7g | Carbs: 12g | Fiber: 3g | Sodium: 310mg