The Relief Society sisters brought a meal to a young mother in the ward this week, and I contributed the funeral potatoes, because of course I did. The week was a summer week, the kind where the light through the kitchen window arrives at a particular angle and the freezer hums in a different register depending on the temperature in the garage. I made notes in my prep notebook on Sunday afternoon, the way I always do: meal name, ingredient list, cost per serving, prep time, freezer instructions. Twenty-eight bags. Two hours and eleven minutes. A little slow this week, by my standards, but Brandon was helping and the conversation was good, and I have learned, slowly and against my own grain, that the conversation is sometimes the point and the time is sometimes a courtesy I extend to my husband for being willing to chop onions on a Sunday afternoon.
Brandon golfed Saturday morning, attended his executive secretary meeting Sunday morning, and did the dishes Wednesday night, which is the rhythm of our life now. We have been married a long time. The arithmetic of it is the arithmetic of my whole life. There were years we missed each other in the same room, and there are years we find each other in the silences, and this is one of the latter, and I am old enough now to know that the latter is the achievement and the former was the cost.
The recipe of the week was seven-layer salad, which I have made some specific number of times in my life and have refined to a system that I now hand to other people in printed form. The version I made this week fed eight, cost under fifteen dollars, and required twenty-six minutes of active prep, which is within my requirements and not a coincidence. Sunday prep is twenty-eight bags. I time myself. The accountant never leaves. I have stopped explaining the freezer-meal philosophy to people who already follow my work, and I have stopped apologizing for it to people who do not. The philosophy is simple: tomorrow is coming whether you are ready or not. You can either be ready or not. I pick ready.
The children are doing what they do, which is the central report of every week of my adult life. Ethan, 20, is in the Philippines on his mission. He sends emails on Mondays. I read them on Mondays. The day is now structured around his email. Olivia is 18, at BYU studying elementary education — the path she chose at age seven and has not deviated from once. Mason, 15, is in Brazil on his mission. His weekly emails are short and full of jokes. He does not write much about the work. He writes about the food. Lily is 13, in high school, asking the kind of questions in Sunday School that make the teachers uncomfortable, which I find difficult and also, secretly, admirable. Noah is 11, the comedian, the performer — the kid who does an impression of my disappointed face in front of company, and gets away with it. That is the family report. I do not have a system for these reports. I just listen and remember and call back when I said I would call back, which is most of the time and not all of the time, and the difference between most and all is the territory of motherhood.
I will close the laptop in a moment. I will go to bed. I will get up tomorrow. The freezer will be there. The photograph will be there. The work will be there. So will I.
The seven-layer salad I mentioned in my notes this week is a cousin to this one — same philosophy, different execution. I keep coming back to the Cranberry Waldorf because it asks almost nothing of me and returns more than it owes: color on the table, something sweet and sharp at once, and the particular satisfaction of a recipe that is already done by the time anyone sits down. Twenty-six minutes of prep is within my requirements. So is this. If Brandon is going to chop onions on a Sunday afternoon, I can hand him the apples instead and call it a collaboration.
Cranberry Waldorf Salad
Prep Time: 15 min | Cook Time: 0 min | Total Time: 15 min | Servings: 8
Ingredients
- 3 cups fresh cranberries, coarsely chopped
- 3 medium apples, cored and diced (unpeeled)
- 1 cup celery, thinly sliced
- 1 cup seedless red grapes, halved
- 1/2 cup chopped walnuts or pecans
- 1/2 cup miniature marshmallows (optional)
- 1/3 cup granulated sugar
- 1 cup whipped topping or lightly sweetened whipped cream
- 1/2 cup mayonnaise
- 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice
- Pinch of salt
Instructions
- Sweeten the cranberries. Combine the chopped cranberries and sugar in a large bowl. Stir well and let sit for 5 minutes so the sugar begins to draw out the juice and soften the tartness.
- Add the produce. Add the diced apples, celery, and halved grapes to the cranberry mixture. Stir to combine.
- Make the dressing. In a small bowl, whisk together the mayonnaise, lemon juice, and a pinch of salt until smooth.
- Fold everything together. Add the dressing to the fruit mixture and stir gently to coat. Fold in the whipped topping until just incorporated — don’t overmix.
- Add the finishing touches. Fold in the chopped nuts and marshmallows if using.
- Chill before serving. Cover and refrigerate for at least 1 hour before serving. The salad holds well for up to 24 hours in the refrigerator.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 195 | Protein: 2g | Fat: 11g | Carbs: 24g | Fiber: 3g | Sodium: 95mg