Late October. Two weeks until the move. I am holding two realities: the excitement of building a shared home with James and the low hum of the birth mother search, seventeen months with GOA'L, eight months with 325Kamra, still no match. Dr. Yoon says the two realities can coexist without one undermining the other: you can build a future while searching for a past. The building and the searching use different hands.
This week I went to the Eastern Social Welfare Society website and submitted an additional request: an active search. Not just waiting for a database match but asking the agency to actively search their records, cross-reference databases, potentially reach out through Korean media. The active search is more aggressive than the database wait. It is me saying: do not just wait for her. Go find her. The request felt bold and necessary and I filed it on a Tuesday after making kimchi jjigae, because Tuesdays are for jjigae and boldness, apparently.
James supported the decision without hesitation. He said, "Whatever you need. I am with you." The whatever-you-need of a partner who does not try to fix but accompanies. The accompaniment is everything.
I also made mandu this week — Korean dumplings, handmade, crimped with the skill that Misook's cooking class gave me years ago. The mandu were for the freezer: fifty dumplings, frozen in rows on parchment, ready for the new kitchen. The first food item to be prepared for the Fremont apartment: frozen mandu, handmade, waiting.
Saturday: Bellevue. Karen made her chicken and dumplings. I brought mandu. Two kinds of dumplings. American and Korean. Karen looked at them side by side and said, "Dumplings are universal." She is right. Every culture wraps something in dough. The wrapping is the loving. The dough is the holding. The filling is the family.
Karen’s chicken and dumplings were still warm in my memory on the drive home from Bellevue — that moment of the two plates side by side, mandu and dumplings, and her saying dumplings are universal. I kept turning it over. I’d spent the week being bold: filing the active search, making fifty mandu for a freezer in an apartment I don’t yet live in. So when I got home and wanted to cook something just for fun, something a little ridiculous and joyful, I landed on these Cheesecake Factory cheeseburger egg rolls — because an egg roll is just another culture’s dumpling, and right now I want to make every version I can find.
Copycat Cheesecake Factory Cheeseburger Egg Rolls
Prep Time: 20 min | Cook Time: 15 min | Total Time: 35 min | Servings: 12 egg rolls
Ingredients
- 1 lb ground beef (80/20)
- 1/2 cup yellow onion, finely diced
- 1 cup shredded sharp cheddar cheese
- 2 tablespoons yellow mustard
- 2 tablespoons ketchup
- 1/4 cup dill pickle, finely chopped
- 1 teaspoon garlic powder
- 1/2 teaspoon onion powder
- Salt and black pepper to taste
- 12 egg roll wrappers
- 1 egg, beaten (for sealing)
- Vegetable oil, for frying (about 3 cups)
- Dipping sauce: 3 tablespoons mayonnaise, 1 tablespoon ketchup, 1 tablespoon yellow mustard, 1 tablespoon pickle relish
Instructions
- Cook the filling. In a large skillet over medium-high heat, cook the ground beef and diced onion together, breaking up the meat, until fully browned, about 7–8 minutes. Drain excess fat.
- Season and mix. Reduce heat to medium-low. Stir in mustard, ketchup, chopped pickles, garlic powder, onion powder, salt, and pepper. Cook 2 minutes until everything is well combined. Remove from heat and let the mixture cool for 10 minutes so it doesn’t melt the wrappers too fast.
- Add cheese. Fold the shredded cheddar into the cooled beef mixture until evenly distributed.
- Wrap the egg rolls. Lay an egg roll wrapper on a clean surface in a diamond orientation. Place about 3 tablespoons of filling near the bottom corner. Fold the bottom corner up over the filling, fold in the sides, then roll tightly toward the top corner. Seal the edge with beaten egg. Repeat with remaining wrappers and filling.
- Heat the oil. Pour vegetable oil into a heavy-bottomed pot or deep skillet to a depth of about 2 inches. Heat over medium-high until it reaches 350°F.
- Fry in batches. Working in batches of 3–4, carefully lower egg rolls into the hot oil. Fry 3–4 minutes, turning occasionally, until deep golden brown and crispy on all sides. Transfer to a paper-towel-lined plate.
- Make the dipping sauce. Whisk together mayonnaise, ketchup, mustard, and relish in a small bowl. Taste and adjust.
- Serve immediately. Slice each egg roll diagonally and serve hot alongside the dipping sauce.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 218 | Protein: 11g | Fat: 13g | Carbs: 14g | Fiber: 1g | Sodium: 390mg