James called twice this week, which is more than his usual rate by some margin. The first call was practical — he had a question about Dorothy's appetite, which has declined with treatment, and what to make for someone who doesn't want to eat but needs to. This is a question I have thought about since losing Marcus, who toward the end had no appetite at all, and I told James what I knew: small things, familiar things, strong flavors in small amounts, cold foods when hot ones feel like too much. Soup that has been cooked down to its essence. Good crackers. Soft fruit. Things that don't require negotiation to eat.
The second call was at nine o'clock on Thursday evening and had no practical purpose. He said he just wanted to hear my voice. I said, I'm here. We talked for an hour about nothing in particular — memories of our parents, the neighborhood we grew up in, a family reunion in the nineties that got rained out and everyone ended up under a single tarp eating soggy potato salad and somehow it became the best reunion anyone could remember. James laughed at that story for a good three minutes. I have not heard him laugh like that in this whole conversation cycle. I held the phone and let him laugh.
I made a batch of the tomato preserves this week — the ones from Cousin Rosemary's recipe — because the romas are coming in and it is the right time. Standing at the stove watching the preserves thicken, I thought about all the things I am doing now that are about making sure the good things stay. Writing down recipes. Building a table. Calling James when he needs it. There is a practice underneath all of this that I am just starting to be able to name: I am trying to be the person in this family who holds things so they don't get lost. I didn't elect myself to this. It just turned out to be me.
The tomato preserves were Cousin Rosemary’s, and they’ll always be hers, but this lemon curd is the other thing I keep coming back to when I want to put something bright and useful into a jar. It’s the kind of thing I was telling James about — strong flavor in a small amount, good on crackers, no negotiation required — and making it feels like the same quiet work as everything else I’ve been doing lately: holding on to what’s worth holding on to.
Classic Lemon Curd
Prep Time: 10 minutes | Cook Time: 15 minutes | Total Time: 25 minutes | Servings: 12 (about 1-1/2 cups)
Ingredients
- 3 large eggs
- 1 cup granulated sugar
- 1/2 cup fresh lemon juice (about 3–4 lemons)
- 2 tablespoons lemon zest (finely grated)
- 6 tablespoons unsalted butter, cut into small pieces
- 1/8 teaspoon salt
Instructions
- Whisk the base. In a medium heatproof bowl or the top of a double boiler, whisk together the eggs, sugar, lemon juice, lemon zest, and salt until well combined.
- Cook over gentle heat. Set the bowl over a saucepan of barely simmering water, making sure the bottom of the bowl does not touch the water. Stir constantly with a wooden spoon or silicone spatula for 12–15 minutes, until the mixture thickens enough to coat the back of the spoon (about 170°F).
- Add the butter. Remove the bowl from heat. Add the butter pieces one or two at a time, stirring after each addition until fully melted and incorporated. The curd will become glossy and smooth.
- Strain for silk. Pour the curd through a fine-mesh strainer into a clean jar or bowl, pressing gently with a spatula. This removes any bits of cooked egg and the zest, leaving a perfectly silky texture.
- Cool and store. Press a piece of plastic wrap directly onto the surface of the curd to prevent a skin from forming. Refrigerate until fully chilled and set, at least 2 hours. The curd will keep in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 130 | Protein: 2g | Fat: 7g | Carbs: 17g | Fiber: 0g | Sodium: 35mg