November arrives. The clocks fall back and the days shorten and the light changes again — from October's gold to November's gray, that flat pewter sky that settles over the Treasure Valley like a lid. I don't mind it. The gray forces you inward, toward kitchens and fires and the people you keep close, and after a year of being outward — fighting, surviving, rebuilding — inward feels right. I am ready to be still for a while.
Mason came home with a school project: a family tree. He had to draw it and label it. He drew himself, me, Lily, Grandma Diane, Grandpa Gary, Uncle Brett, Uncle Kyle. He did not draw Scott. His teacher, Mr. Adkins, called me and said, "Mason chose not to include his father on the family tree. I wanted you to know." I said, "What did you say to him?" He said, "I said family trees can look different for everyone, and his was perfect." I could have kissed Mr. Adkins. I could have hired him to narrate my life.
I sat with Mason that night and we talked about the family tree. I said, "Your daddy is part of your family, even though he lives far away." Mason said, "I know. I just didn't have room on the paper." Whether this was true or metaphorical, I let it stand. Six-year-olds say things that mean more than they know, and sometimes the kindest thing a mother can do is not ask which meaning they intended.
Lily informed me this week that she wants a horse for Christmas. Not a toy horse. A real horse. I explained that we don't have a barn or a pasture or the $500-a-month board fee. She considered this and said, "Then I want a really big dog." I said, "We have a really big dog." She said, "A BIGGER one." Negotiations are ongoing.
I made a big batch of chili for the week — comfort food, batch cooking, the single-mom strategy of cooking once and eating five times. Chili Monday through Wednesday, chili in school thermoses, chili for dinner, chili as the answer to the eternal question of "what's for dinner?" which I answer approximately 1,825 times a year and which never gets easier. The chili was good. It's always good. Chili is the lowest-effort, highest-reward food in the American culinary canon, and I will defend it against all comers.
Here’s the thing about making a pot of chili big enough to carry you through the week: by Wednesday, you need to do something different with it. Not because the chili has changed — the chili is still good, the chili is always good — but because you’ve earned a little reward for feeding everyone without losing your mind. So on night four, I piled it on fries with a mountain of melted cheese, and the kids acted like I’d invented a new food group. Sometimes the lowest-effort move is also the most heroic.
Chili Cheese Fries
Prep Time: 10 minutes | Cook Time: 20 minutes | Total Time: 30 minutes | Servings: 6
Ingredients
- 2 pounds frozen crinkle-cut or steak fries
- 3 cups prepared chili (homemade or leftover big-batch chili)
- 2 cups shredded cheddar cheese
- 1/2 cup shredded Monterey Jack cheese
- 1/4 cup sour cream, for serving
- 2 green onions, thinly sliced
- Pickled jalapeño slices, optional
- Salt and pepper, to taste
Instructions
- Bake the fries. Preheat oven to 425°F. Spread frozen fries in a single layer on a large rimmed baking sheet. Bake according to package directions until golden and crispy, about 18–20 minutes, flipping halfway through.
- Heat the chili. While the fries bake, warm the chili in a saucepan over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until heated through. If the chili is too thick, add a splash of water or broth to loosen it.
- Assemble the fries. Transfer the hot fries to an oven-safe platter or leave them on the baking sheet. Spoon the warm chili evenly over the fries. Sprinkle the cheddar and Monterey Jack cheeses on top.
- Melt the cheese. Return the loaded fries to the oven or place under the broiler for 2–3 minutes, just until the cheese is melted and bubbly. Watch carefully to avoid burning.
- Top and serve. Remove from the oven and top with sour cream, sliced green onions, and pickled jalapeños if using. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Serve immediately.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 480 | Protein: 22g | Fat: 24g | Carbs: 44g | Fiber: 5g | Sodium: 890mg