Lily turned thirteen on Friday, December twenty-first. The winter solstice. The shortest day of the year and the beginning of my third teenager.
Birthday dinner: Lily's choice. She chose Thai green curry — the one we made together from scratch last summer. She wanted to make it again, better this time, for her birthday. So we did. Side by side in the kitchen, pounding the curry paste in the mortar, frying it in coconut cream, adding the chicken and vegetables. Her technique has improved — the paste was finer, the coconut cream split properly (a sign that it's hot enough), the seasoning was balanced on the first try.
The curry was excellent. Better than our first attempt by a mile. Lily served it over jasmine rice with a garnish of Thai basil and sliced chili and I thought: a year ago this girl was eating chicken nuggets at Whataburger. Now she's making Thai curry from scratch for her birthday. The distance between those two points is the distance I've traveled in forty-four years of cooking, compressed into one year of a twelve-turning-thirteen-year-old's determination.
Presents: the kitchen scale (she squealed), the journal (she hugged me), the Thai cookbook (she started reading it at the table mid-dinner). Tyler gave her a fishing lure he'd made in shop class — carved from wood, painted to look like a shrimp. It's beautiful and impractical and Lily loved it. Emma gave her an apron — matching Emma's, but with Lily's name on it. Ma gave her the red envelope ($50, the grandmother's rate) and a pair of chopsticks — nice ones, lacquered, with mother-of-pearl inlay. "These were mine," Ma said. "Now they're yours."
Ma's chopsticks. The ones she's used for decades. The ones that have stirred her pho, picked up her spring rolls, served her grandchildren. Lily held them and looked at Ma and said, "Ba Noi, these are your favorite." Ma said, "That's why I'm giving them to you."
My mother gives away the things she loves most. She's been doing it her whole life. She gave away her country, her family, her youth. She gave them away and got on a boat and started over. And now she gives her chopsticks to her youngest granddaughter and says: these are yours now. Carry them forward.
Thirteen. Happy birthday, Lily Bug. You've got the curry paste, the chopsticks, and the whole family behind you. The year ahead is yours.
Christmas is Tuesday. The broth is simmering. The presents are wrapped. The story continues.
We didn’t make this dish on Lily’s birthday—we made the curry she asked for, and it was exactly right. But this balsamic roasted chicken is the recipe I kept thinking about afterward, the one I wanted to share alongside that story, because it teaches the same thing the curry taught her: how fat and acid and heat work together, how you build flavor in stages, how a good result on the first try means you were paying attention. If you’re cooking with a kid who’s just starting to find their confidence in the kitchen, start here. The curry can come next.
Balsamic Roasted Chicken Thighs With Root Vegetables
Prep Time: 15 min | Cook Time: 45 min | Total Time: 1 hr | Servings: 4
Ingredients
- 4 bone-in, skin-on chicken thighs (about 2 1/2 lbs total)
- 3 tablespoons balsamic vinegar
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 2 tablespoons honey
- 3 garlic cloves, minced
- 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
- 1 teaspoon fresh thyme leaves (or 1/2 teaspoon dried)
- 1 teaspoon kosher salt, divided
- 1/2 teaspoon black pepper, divided
- 2 medium carrots, cut into 1-inch pieces
- 2 medium parsnips, peeled and cut into 1-inch pieces
- 1 medium sweet potato, peeled and cut into 1-inch cubes
- 1 small red onion, cut into wedges
- Fresh flat-leaf parsley, chopped, for garnish
Instructions
- Preheat and prep. Preheat your oven to 425°F. Line a large rimmed baking sheet with foil and lightly oil it.
- Make the balsamic glaze. In a small bowl, whisk together the balsamic vinegar, olive oil, honey, garlic, Dijon mustard, thyme, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and 1/4 teaspoon pepper. Set aside.
- Season the vegetables. Spread the carrots, parsnips, sweet potato, and red onion on the prepared baking sheet. Drizzle with half the balsamic mixture and toss to coat. Spread into a single layer.
- Season the chicken. Pat the chicken thighs dry with paper towels. Season both sides with the remaining 1/2 teaspoon salt and 1/4 teaspoon pepper. Place skin-side up on top of the vegetables. Spoon the remaining balsamic mixture over the chicken.
- Roast. Roast at 425°F for 40–45 minutes, until the chicken skin is deeply browned and caramelized and an instant-read thermometer inserted into the thickest part reads 165°F. The vegetables should be tender and slightly caramelized at the edges.
- Rest and serve. Let the pan rest for 5 minutes. Spoon any pan juices over the chicken and vegetables. Garnish with fresh parsley and serve directly from the pan.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 480 | Protein: 36g | Fat: 24g | Carbs: 32g | Fiber: 5g | Sodium: 610mg
About the cook who shared this
Bobby Tran
Week 143 of Bobby’s 30-year story
· Houston, Texas
Bobby Tran was born in a refugee camp in Arkansas to parents who fled Saigon with nothing. He grew up in Houston straddling two worlds — Vietnamese at home, Texan everywhere else — and learned to cook from his mother's pho and a neighbor's BBQ smoker. He's a former shrimper, a recovering alcoholic, a divorced dad of three, and the guy who marinates brisket in fish sauce and lemongrass because he doesn't believe in borders, especially when it comes to flavor.